Dec
15
2011

3 Ways We Saved Money During Our Twins’ First Year

Being a father to my twin girls, Lilly and Emma, can be a daunting task at times. Now that we’ve navigated through their first year, I thought I’d share some of the money saving tips that we picked up along the way. We have been able to live on my income alone, which has allowed Rebekah to be a stay-at-home mom to our girls. These three tips alone have helped us stay on track and save quite a bit of money this year.

1.) Do a monthly budget
ACK! The dreaded “B” word – synonymous with “broke”, “straight-jacket”, “noose”, “short leash”, etc. It’s really not any of those things – it’s a game-plan. None of the great coaches or military leaders went to their respective battlefields without a plan, yet so many of us do that with our money. Rebekah and I used to be one of those. We knew about what we were spending each month and that typically our income was a bit higher than our out-go, but we never really sat down with a budget to strategically layout what we were spending where.

YNABYouNeedABudget (YNAB) is a great software package to help manage your budget. Rebekah and I chose this particular software package due to it being able to run on my Mac and her Win7 PC, and share the same budget file. We can each make updates to the budget and by sharing the file, we can see each others changes.

By using YNAB, we’ve been able to plan how much we’re going to spend in each of our categories such as groceries, restaurants, clothing, household items, etc. As we move through the month, we can then update bank transactions by assigning them to categories, we can see how much is left in our “envelope”. Once the envelope is empty – we stop spending in that category unless we both agree to move money from another envelope into that one.

By doing this simple monthly plan, we’ve been able to save ourselves $300 – $400 each month that we normally would have spent on something and not remember what we purchased!

2) Use Debit Cards instead of Credit Cards
Dave Ramsey was right – using cash stings a lot, using a debit card stings less, using credit doesn’t even register pain. Seeing that money leave the checking account after a transaction, really makes you think about how much you are spending and whether or not you really “need” it. Rebekah and I use 2 primary debit cards – one offered by PerkStreet Financial, the other offered by Target.

PerkStreet Financial

I talked about PerkStreet in a previous blog post, but we absolutely love our PerkStreet account. We earn at least 1% cash back on all our purchases with our MasterCard Debit card and don’t run up any credit card bills.

The RedCard from Target is pretty awesome as well. It links to an existing checking account, so it’s like using a Debit Card, but by using it, you get 5% off your total Target purchase, as well as some other benefits that are laid out on Target’s website. We started using this card because our girls liked the Target Up & Up branded formula. It was much cheaper than Enfamil, and we saved even more by using our RedCard when we bought formula. It equated to at least a $5 – $10 savings each month, just on formula.

3) Use Coupons
I didn’t personally do this one, but Rebekah does it like a champ! She subscribes to all these free online groups that get her the sale lists and matches up coupons go with what store sale to get stuff for free (or dirt cheap)! She plans her shopping trips and comes home with mass quantities of food and supplies for at least 50% of what the retail cost would have been.

In order to fully take advantage of all these deals, we did have to stockpile in some cases. Thankfully, we have some storage space in our garage for all the items Rebekah brings home – so we often can “shop” from the garage to make dinner or grab a snack. With her couponing, we’ve been able to comfortably feed our family of 4 on about $400 a month – and it’s certainly more than beans and rice!

We have done many other things throughout the year to cut down on costs as well as pay off some debts, but these items were the big three in comparison with all the others. All three took some work to get started. Our budget pretty much flopped the first time out of the gate – we severely underestimated several categories and overestimated in others. But after a few months of using our budget, our debit cards and coupons, we’ve been able to reign it all in so that they work well together and propel us toward our goal of being debt free!

Dec
07
2011

Attacking Debt with PerkStreet Financial

PerkStreet FinancialPerkStreet Financial offers a free checking account with a MasterCard debit card that pays you cash back for all your non-pin based debit card purchases. I first learned about PerkStreet through the Dave Ramsey Show as one of the advertisers. I kept hearing about them and thought that it was just another Internet-based banking solution that had tons of catches and gotchas that kept you from your money. I was wrong.

I’ve been using their banking services for a little over 8 weeks and I’ll go through my experience with PerkStreet so far. I work for another large financial institution and have most of my other banking products, including my primary checking, with them. PerkStreet is quickly becoming the account we use for most purchases.

Opening an Account
Getting started with PerkStreet is easy, simply go to their website,  fill out and submit the required registration forms. You’ll need a way to fund the account initially, which can be done through an existing checking, savings, or credit card. I did an ACH transfer from my existing primary checking for $50.

Within 2 business days, I was notified by email that my account application was approved and that they were in the process of establishing my account. I submitted my application on Friday night, so it was Tuesday before I received this notification. So getting the account set-up was easy, the only complaint I had about establishing the account was the time it took to actually receive our debit cards. It took about 14 calendar days from the time I submitted my application to actually receive my cards. So unless I did online bill payments, I could not use the account until I got my cards. Otherwise, account setup was great!

Transferring Money to PerkStreet
Getting money to your PerkStreet account is pretty easy – once you get everything set up. The initial setup needed is a bit tedious, and can take a couple of days. I needed to connect 2 different checking accounts as well as savings account to be able to transfer money to my PerkStreet account. I understand the need for the security steps in place – I’m just impatient and wanted to start using my new account immediately :) .

In order to transfer money to PerkStreet using their web interface, I had to enter my routing account numbers into the tool, then wait for verification for each account. To verify that your account is setup properly, PerkStreet will deposit and withdraw a small amount, less than $1.00, from your linked account. Once this happened, I was able to go back to the PerkStreet site and verify the amounts. After verification, I was able to setup a transfer from my existing accounts that would be deposited within 3 business days.

For your safety PerkStreet limits the amount that you can transfer from each account into you PerkStreet account each month. I actually ran into this issue the first month and hit my limit. Thankfully, with my bank there was a work-around in that I could “push” the money from my account to PerkStreet and there is no transfer limit there. For me, this is actually faster as my bank offers next business day processing at no additional fee with my particular checking account. Since finding this method, it is my preferred method to get money to PerkStreet.

Direct Deposit
I also worked with my employer to set up direct deposit from my check for a certain amount. It’s a pretty easy process with my employer, and I set this amount up for a gift I give each month that is stable. I use the other transfer method above for my normal purchases where the amounts can fluctuate from month to month depending on my monthly budget.

Debit Card

The aftermath of my plasectomy!


The best part of PerkStreet has to be the PERKS! I get to use my debit card and earn cash back! No more carrying around a bunch of credit cards just for really terrible rewards.

To earn my rewards, all I have to do it swipe my debit card as a credit card (i.e. don’t enter my PIN number) and PerkStreet handles the rest. All the specific details about the amount of rewards earned is detailed on their site, but currently it is up to 2%. I use my PerkStreet debit card for my groceries, gas, Amazon.com purchases, my Internet bill payment, wireless phone bill payment – just about everywhere I used to pay with a credit card.

Benefits of PerkStreet
The absolute best part about using PerkStreet, aside from the cash back rewards, is that I am NOT accruing credit card debt! It’s almost like using cash!

I have been working with Rebekah to be very diligent to our budget and working on eliminating our debt to be become debt free. By using PerkStreet we are able to still feel a little of the pain associated with using cash by seeing the money leave our checking account rather than just going on a credit card to be forgotten.

Outside of the initial frustrations I had with setting up the account and getting money into it, I have loved every aspect of PerkStreet. I cannot argue about earning rewards on purchases I would have made anyway. Bottom line – if you are looking for a different banking experience, or even if you’re not, give PerkStreet a try and earn some rewards for your debit card purchases!

 

Check out www.perkstreet.com, www.facebook.com/PerkStreet or www.twitter.com/PerkStreet for more information on PerkStreet Financial.

May
31
2011

What is your time worth?

It’s tough to put a price on your time. Of course, you can figure out your hourly worth to your employer by your pay check. I also do some consulting work on the side, so I know what an hour of my expertise is worth from that aspect, but how do you value your time elsewhere?

This thought struck me recently when I was struggling to balance “daddy time” with things that needed to be done around the house. With it becoming summer time, that means lawn maintenance season is upon us. Lawn mowing falls under my jurisdiction since Rebekah’s allergies make it difficult for her to help in this area. However, with 2 kiddos at home needing lots of love and attention, I was finding it hard to get the yard taken care of. Between taking care of the girls, and Rebekah’s stamp classes, it was to the point where I had to “schedule” mowing the yard. Of course I had to do it during daylight hours, so that meant I missed time with the girls, and most times I needed to do it during the week because of other things going on during the weekend, so that meant I had to do it after work – which was honestly the last thing I wanted to do.

So, I finally broke down and have started paying a landscaper to come maintain our yard. He is able to give the yard the love and attention that I can’t right now. When I look at it from a financial only standpoint, it’s expensive. It’s more than it costs me to buy the lawn products myself and do it. However, when looking at it as an overall investment, I come out ahead. By not having to worry about my lawn (other than writing a check, and putting the sprinkler out occasionally), I am free to spend time with my girls when they are awake, and then spend time with Rebekah when they are sleeping.

Overall, the time I get to spend with my girls (all 3 of them) is worth more to me than what it costs to have my lawn taken care of each week. I am truly thankful that we are in a position to even make this a possibility so that I can take advantage of every possible moment with my girls. These are times that I can’t get back once they pass.

Apr
28
2011

Life as a Dad

So what have I learned as a new dad to twins in the first ~5 months? A lot!

  1. Time management is key. You don’t have much to yourself anymore. Between work, baby duty and home responsibilities you just run out of hours in the day before you get to do much for yourself. The only time I can really try to guarantee for myself is first thing in the morning from 5:30 to 7:00 when I go to the gym. Anything past that is a crap shoot. I usually can grab an hour or so after the girls go to bed to catch up on a few things or play a video game or work on some consulting projects. That is if I’m not exhausted and about to fall over :)
  2. Babies can be frustrating. There are times when the girls just do not want to eat. They are so hungry they are screaming and don’t realize the bottle is in their mouth. It doesn’t matter what you do they just won’t take it.
  3. Babies can change your mood in an instant. It never fails that just as I’m about to hit the breaking point, one of the girls will look at me and give me this ear-to-ear grin. All you can do at that point is laugh and they’ll keep doing it.
  4. Time away is important. You need to recharge your battery. Being on the frontlines all the time is a great way to get a one-way ticket to the funny farm. Rebekah and I do a pretty good job of trading off watching the girls so we can recharge. I’m fortunate that I get to go to work for my time away. Even though there’s stress and work involved with work, it’s a change from baby duty. I always try to take a turn at baby duty when I come home from the office so Rebekah can have some time to herself to go for a run, stamp, or do whatever she wants to do that is not baby or housework related.

I love being a Dad and wouldn’t trade it for the world, but man it’s like having another full-time job somedays! I have a new appreciation for what my Dad did all those years of taking care of my brother and me. I hope I can live up to that example :)

Feb
12
2011

Saving Money Anywhere Possible

The first thing I panicked about with having twins was the ridiculous number of diapers we’d go through. Even if we only changed the girls at each bottle like the NICU did, we’d go through:

8 diapers daily * 2 girls * 30 days = 480 diapers per month

This is based on the absolute minimum number of changes, but let’s be honest, babies never go the minimum. Now, if we put numbers with this it looks like the following (based on BJ’s Warehouse pricing for size 1 Pampers Swaddlers).

480 diapers per month / 216 diapers per box = 2.22 boxes (round that to 3 boxes).

3 boxes per month *  $39.49 per box = $118.47 before tax or any coupons

$118.47 / 648 diapers = $0.18 per diaper

The reason I show the per diaper cost is because it makes comparisons apples to apples for price purposes.

Now to find some savings – enter Amazon with the Amazon Mom and Subscribe and Save discount. Amazon Mom is a discount program through Amazon that gives parents a free 3 month Amazon Prime membership that is extended by 1 month for each $25 of baby stuff you buy, up to a maximum of 12 months. Additionally, you get a 15% discount on certain baby products as well.

Amazon Subscribe and Save is a similar program in which you subscribe to an item to have a set number of items delivered on a 1, 2, 3 or 6 month interval. By using this feature, you get 15% off the price as well.

The cool part is that qualifying baby purchases get both discounts for a total of 30% off in addition to any coupons! The example below is just for the Amazon Mom and Subscribe & Save discounts, but I have confirmed with an order that you can use a coupon code on top of these for additional savings.

So, the same calculations using Amazon:

80 diapers per month / 216 diapers per box = 2.22 boxes (round that to 3 boxes).

3 boxes per month *  ($40.20 per box – $6.03  for Amazon Mom – $6.03 for Subscription) = $84.42 before any coupons (no sales tax in NC)

$84.42 / 648 diapers = $0.13 per diaper

So, with no additional coupons to either store, Amazon with the Mom and Subscription discount will save $0.05 per diaper, or about $35 per month for diapers. If this savings were extended through a full year, that would equal just over $400 in savings for the year!

The subscription service with Amazon does not instantly mean a cheaper price as I have found on some other items such as paper towels, but in most cases it does provide a savings. The best you can do is check the prices locally and then check Amazon. I just recently signed up to receive my Whey Protein powder from Amazon via subscription for a $10 – 15 savings over local health food store pricing each month.

We’ve gotten a lot of good use of the Amazon Mom discounts as well as enjoyed the free Amazon Prime membership for all our other purchases. Check it out for yourself and see where you can use Amazon to save yourself some money each month.

For parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles – anyone who cares for a child – sign up for Amazon Mom here: http://www.amazon.com/gp/mom/signup/welcome

Good luck on finding your deals!

Feb
10
2011

Replacing Time Warner’s DVR and cutting cable

Over the last few months I’ve posted several times on Facebook about building my DVR or HTPC (Home Theater PC) and several people have requested I talk about what I did to get this running.

First, I’ll go over the parts list of items that I had laying around:

  1. Dell XPS Generation 3 PC (3.6 GHZ Pentium 4 with HT; 3GB of RAM; 160 GB System HDD; 500GB Secondary HDD; 128 MB Graphics Card; Standard 6.1 SoundBlaster SoundCard)
  2. Several versions of Microsoft Windows (XP, Vista Ultimate, 7 Ultimate)
  3. Lots of various cables that I’ve collected over the years (audio, DVI, HDMI, DVI/HDMI, etc.)
  4. Linksys Router (transformed it into a wireless bridge)

The PC I used is a bit underpowered for running lots of HD programming, but it works. On occasion if 2 programs are recording and I am watching a 3rd, the picture will skip slightly, but the audio runs fine. I can put up with this for the time being to not have to pay Time Warner Cable.

Next, these are the items I purchased from various online vendors:

  1. AverMedia Duet Dual Tuner Card ($64.99)
  2. AVS Gear Media Center Remote ($23.99)
  3. MonoPrice HDTV Antenna ($22.42)
  4. SIIG 7.1 SoundCard ($33.68)

SETTING UP THE HTPC

I’ll save the hassle and boring write up of how many times I rebuilt/formatted the PC with different versions of Windows and different demos of TV software and just go over what I have currently running.

First, I installed Windows 7 on the HTPC. I chose Windows 7 because Windows Media Center is included with it, and the most recent updates allow multiple tuners to run on it. Previous versions limited you to 2 tuners of each type (digital/analog), but with Win7 you can run up to 4 of each. This feature will allow you to watch/record 4 HD shows at the same time as long as you have enough tuners installed.

After getting the finishing touches on the setup of Windows 7 I was able to start working with the HTPC components. Windows 7 took a few hours to set up by itself. After shutting down the machine, I installed the TV Tuners, SoundCard and Remote Receiver. I’m not going to spend much time here on these as they were easily installed and I ran the included software that was Win7 approved. You can use just about any tuner you like, just make sure it is Win7 approved and you get the proper drivers. In my case with the AverMedia, I can only use an antenna with it in Win7, it will not pick up any cable signals.

After adding all the new cards and installing all the drivers, it was time to start up the HTPC. Once the machine starts, run Windows Media Center and follow the setup instructions. This will walk you through finding the tuners installed in the machine as well as the channels in your area. As a note on the antenna placement – use the signal strength finder within Media Center to help with this. My initial placement was not that great and by using the signal strength finder, I was able to get the antenna placed so that I can pick up all the local channels in Charlotte (ABC, NBC, FOX, CBS, the CW).

After that you’re good to go if you want to just use Media Center for all your TV needs. It will record and playback as well as watch live TV, DVDs, downloaded video, etc. However, I wanted to be able to have a backup should a recording fail. Most of the shows we like are available online shortly after airing. The old method of doing this was to open a browser and go to the site, find the video, etc. Thankfully, there is a software package that will do it for you now, BOXEE.

BOXEE
To further extend the Media Center, I downloaded BOXEE. Boxee will allow you to subscribe to online video feeds so that you will always see when new items are posted. It is not flawless and due to some recent changes any videos from Hulu cannot play in Boxee – but I have a way around that as well that I’ll mention later. Boxee is great as it will play just about anything – all the file formats are available on the website.

In addition to Boxee, I installed a Media Center extension that will allow me to access Boxee from Media Center using my remote. The plugin can be found here: http://boxeewmc.teknowebworks.com/. This plug in allows me to choose when I want to run Boxee from Media Center and will automatically open Boxee and shut down Media Center. When I am finished with Boxee and want to return, all I do is shut down Boxee and Media Center will automatically start. This makes bouncing between the two applications very easy.

Hulu
As I mentioned earlier, Boxee will not play Hulu video, but Hulu does provide a desktop application, called Hulu Desktop (clever, huh?) This application is still in a “beta” mode, but it works pretty well. The video in full screen can be a bit laggy, but it’s tolerable considering it is free. With the desktop application, you can access your Hulu queue and subscriptions from Hulu.com. So I use Hulu.com to manage my queue and just access it from the application. You can also search and browse from within the application.

There is also an integration for Hulu for Media Center just like Boxee. You can install it from here: http://huluwmc.teknowebworks.com/. Again, it will do the same as Boxee where when you start Hulu, Media Center will shut down and vice versa.

A Few “Gotchas”
After installing Boxee, I found that it will play the old Windows DVR-MS file format, but not the new WTV format for Windows7 Media Center. The reason this is an issue is that sometimes on my older machine when Media Center is recording several things, it does not like to play video files back smoothly, but Boxee will.

Again, a FREE download will fix this issue. WTV Watcher is a free download that will watch your recorded TV folder and auto convert the files from .WTV to .DVR-MS using the built in converter for Windows7. I’ve had it hang up on me a few times, but that’s nothing a little reboot of the machine can’t fix.

Another cool tool that I’ve been playing with is called Lifextender. It will cut out the commercials from your recorded TV shows. However, this must be on a .DVR-MS file to work – so it works well with WTV Watcher. In the last few days I’ve had some issues with Lifextender hanging during commercial removal. This may be due to the volume of files it is processing. I’m still playing around with this one to see what I can make of it, but when I run it on individual files, it works well.

Final Wrap Up
So for a final cost of $145, I was able to build my DVR out of an old PC that was surprising still within the spec limit of Windows7. Obviously a newer PC with more horsepower would run this much better, but I’m impressed with it for a first attempt. The cost of all my parts will be made up in the first 2 months of being cable free. My Time Warner bill used to run $127, and is now $35. A savings of $92 per month, so I’ll actually break even in about 1.5 months.

The best part of the build is that with the addition of the integrations and the USB remote receiver, I can control the whole thing with my Logitech Harmony remote. If you have more than 2 components in your Home Theater setup, I highly recommend one of these; it has been a life saver. While I am very “techie”, my darling wife, Rebekah, is as much. I have no issue bouncing around from remote to remote to get the stuff working, but with the Logitech, it’s not needed. She simply hits one button and the Home Theater comes to life.

I hope this proves helpful to some of you that had been asking me about it. Please feel free to post any questions as comments, either here or on Facebook and I’ll be happy to answer them.

Feb
04
2011

Back to Basics

The day I found out I was going to be a Daddy was hands down one of the best days of my life. Rebekah and I had been working so hard to make this dream come true and the news it was finally going to happen was amazing! After more than a year of tests, surgeries (took one for the team on this one…), poking and prodding it had finally happened…

…but 30 seconds later it went from joy to a feeling of “Now what?!?” when the doctor proudly announced that we were having twins! The excitement was still there about being a Daddy, but the provider and hunter/gatherer instincts kicked in and I began thinking “How in the world can I afford twins?!” The answer was pretty clear to me after starting to delve into our financial health: SACRIFICE.

Shortly after I began taking a hard look at our financial situation I ran across Dave Ramsey. I had heard of him before but never knew exactly what he was all about. After taking a spin on his website I started downloading his free podcast from iTunes and listened regularly. The guy is no joke. His message was clear – “Live like no one else so that later you can live like no one else.” The more I listened to him I became exceedingly clear to me as to what we needed to do to help support our girls.

All luxuries had to go.

Good Bye Blackberry, Hello old beater phone
Rebekah and I both had Blackberries with the unlimited data plans. Now we each have regular phones with moderate texting plans (seems you can’t get rid of texting no matter how hard you try…) I won’t lie and say it was easy to turn off the Crackberry, but after a few weeks, I didn’t even miss it. I certainly didn’t miss sending Verizon the extra $60 a month they charged for it. Swapping to small texting plans and turning off the Blackberries resulted in a net savings of $50 a month. $50 will buy a fair number of diapers or a couple of cans of formula.

Adios super-awesome cable package
We also subscribed to a fairly high tier of cable programming with DVR service, several premium movie channels and Internet service. Notice that the verb is past tense…we turned this off too, but did so in stages due to a contractual agreement with Time Warner Cable. First we hacked the premium channels and saved around $15 a month, or 1 can of formula.

The next stage was even harder – no DVR, no OnDemand, no cable channels like ESPN, FX or TNT. We took out the chainsaw on this one. We cut cable altogether, but kept Internet as we both need it for work/side jobs. I then set out to build my own DVR – I’ll write a more extensive post on how I built the DVR system out of the desktop PC I replaced with my MacBook Pro with my costs, etc. in the near future.

I’ve been finding that with the girls here I want to watch TV less anyhow, so as long as I can grab a few shows that I love to watch I’m good to go. I’ve also been reading a bit more…and yes some of them are Dave Ramsey books. :)

This cut saves us about $100 a month.

Bye-Bye Extras
We had also subscribed to Netflix, Hulu Plus and Sirius Radio. All of these have been turned off as well. We found that with Netflix and Hulu they were nice, but we rarely used them. We had Netflix movies that would sit for days (sometimes even weeks) before we’d watch it. In these instances it is just as easy to find a movie at the RedBox and pay $1 when we need it rather than spending $9 a month for movies we never watched.

The key word in all of this has been SACRIFICE. It sure hasn’t been easy to do without these things – the 200 TV channels sure were nice as were the Blackberries. In the long run all the cutting and being cheap will be worth it. We’re using our savings each month to help pay for things the girls need as well as get rid of our debt the “Dave Ramsey Way” so that we and our girls can live like no one else!

Feb
03
2011

A Change in Direction

Now that Lilly and Emma are here, I’m going to change the direction of this blog slightly. Previously, it was dedicated to discussing our journey to have children and everything we were going through from the adoption process all the way through to the birth. Going forward, I’m going to focus on my view of life with the girls. It could be anything from stuff I’ve learned from raising girls (which is a totally new adventure for me – my family growing up was all boys), to what we’re doing to cut our expenses. ***WARNING – Most posts about costs will likely have a Dave Ramsey reference in them***

I have a few ideas brewing to post up in the coming days and weeks. I believe the first will be what Rebekah and I have done to cut our monthly expenses as well as several deals we’ve been able to find along the way. Some of what I post may or may not work for you; in our case most of the cuts were on items we were willing to sacrifice to pay down our debts and provide for Lilly and Emma.

Stay tuned for more ramblings from the 3 ring circus that is my life these days.

Nov
21
2010

Lilly and Emma already making life interesting

Well, I’ve done it again…let the blog fall to the wayside; however, as I’ll update in the next little bit, it was probably well justified.

Where do I begin? I guess the best place to start would be to say that Lilly and Emma are both doing very well, and when we had them measured a few weeks ago, they were 2 lbs, 14 oz and 2 lbs 13 oz. We’re currently sitting at 31 weeks and 2 days and both Mom and kiddos are doing well.

Now for all the excitement. In the last month or so we’ve spent about 3 weeks in the hospital with Rebekah on bed rest. The first episode happened in Mid-October around Columbus day. That week we went in for our regular OB appointment with an ultrasound. As soon as the ultrasound technician started the exam, she saw something out of the ordinary and left to get the Doctor. Upon the doctor’s return she looked at the ultrasound pictures and saw that Rebekah’s cervix was very short – which is normally a sign that contractions have started and is an indicator of pre-term labor. At that point she said, you need to go down to the hospital for monitoring and to leave immediately.

We left the OB’s office and left for the hospital where Rebekah was put on monitors for a few hours to see what if anything was going on. It turns out that there was nothing going on at the time, and it turns out it could have been this way the whole time and the Doctors didn’t know it because this is our first pregnancy. We stayed in the hospital for 3 days with no change and the Doctors determined that we were okay to go home and continue bedrest from there.

Now, we fast forward a couple of weeks to another regularly scheduled OB appointment. At this appointment, the doctor decided to do a physical exam rather than an ultrasound (I also think the Ultrasound tech was in another office that day as well). Upon doing the physical exam, the doctor found that Rebekah was dilated about 2 to 3 cm and we were shipped off the the hospital yet again.

Once the doctors were able to examine Rebekah and monitor her for a while, they were able to determine that she was not contracting, but wanted to keep her for observation until we reached 30 weeks. We were just over 28 weeks at the time. The next few weeks in the hospital were pretty uneventful, other than a few nights where Rebekah was sick. There were no additional contractions, nor did she dilate any more and we were sent home.

So, we’re finally back at home with Rebekah on bedrest. She’s really bored to death actually – she can only watch so many Lifetime movies or Discovery Health shows and surfing the Internet gets boring after a while too. We’re hoping that the girls will hold off on making their grand arrival until at least 34 weeks, which would be around Mid-December.

Thank you to everyone for all the prayers and the meals that have brought through the MealTrains that were setup. Hopefully I’ll be able to keep this updated more frequently and we’ll stay out of the hospital for a while.

Until next time,
E

Jul
13
2010

Bonding With the Twins

Moms-to-be have this wonderful bonding experience available because they can actually feel their children growing inside them. They get to experience them moving around, causing breathing, stomach, bladder, etc. issues. (I didn’t say they were all good experiences :) ). What about us dads-to-be? We get the short end of the stick – unless you do something about it.

Granted, we won’t be able to feel the kids move until they get big enough, but that doesn’t mean we have to wait until then to begin bonding with them. I may sound like I’ve come straight from the looney bin on this one, but I actually talk to the twins every day. I have a nightly routine before bed where I get really close to Rebekah’s tummy, place my hand about where the kiddos are, and talk to them. I’ll tell them whatever’s on my mind – most of the time I’ll tell them that their job right now is to grow “big and strong”, and before they know it, they can come out and play. They can’t really hear me yet, but it’s still fun for me to think they can and to tell them things. We started a baby registry a few days ago and afterward I told them all the cool things that Dad put on there for them (even if Mommy told me not to in some instances).

Sometimes for fun, I’ll have my own little conversation with them – and make up their side of it. I’ll say something to them and then put my ear to Rebekah’s tummy to pretend like I’m listening to them. Then I’ll “translate” what they said for Rebekah. Sometimes it’s goofy stuff like they are having a fight with each other and Twin A is mad at Twin B because Twin B kicked Twin A (not old enough to know what they are yet, so I can’t call them by name). Other times if Rebekah is feeling crummy, I’ll tell her that the twins said “We’re sorry, Mommy, but we have to grow big!”.

Take it for what it’s worth, but it’s fun for me. :)

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